How to be outgoing

 How to be outgoing

Some people are naturally outgoing, but other people have to practice to become outgoing. If you want to become outgoing, there are several strategies you can use. Being "outgoing" means learning how to present yourself to others, strike up a conversation, and be more confident.

Things you should know

Introduce yourself, give compliments, discuss common interests, and ask open-ended questions to keep the conversation open.

To socialize more regularly, join clubs, invite friends, maintain your existing friendships, and introduce your friends to other people.

To appear friendly, focus on maintaining eye contact with others, active listening, maintaining great posture.

1. Start small.

As obvious as it may sound, it's really helpful to remember that Leavers weren't partying straight out of the womb. They had years of practice in safer environments: talking to their siblings, joking with classmates, and so on. You can simulate the natural way to become outgoing – by starting small and working your way up. What small step can you take today to do something a little more open than you did before?

Start with people you know or, if you're starting over, find a small group of people you share an interest with. A book club, sports team, or hobby group is a great place to start. Try something new with this group, like bar crawling or hosting a barbecue, and ask people to bring their friends.

2. Give thanks publicly.

You may see some of the same people every day, but you never know them. In order to become outgoing, it is important to start acknowledging the people around you more often. The next time you order coffee or check in at the grocery store, smile at the person helping you. Make eye contact and say "thank you." This small gesture will help you communicate better with others and probably make the other person's day a little brighter.

A small compliment can also go a long way, especially in service situations. Remember that your salesperson or barista will serve hundreds of people every day, many of whom will likely either ignore you or be rude. Say something like, “Wow, thanks for bringing this to me so quickly” to show your appreciation.

3. Make eye contact.

If you're in a social situation like a party, try to make eye contact with the other people there. Once you make eye contact, give the other person a friendly smile. If the other person holds your gaze, walk over to them and introduce yourself. If the person smiles at you, that is also a good sign.

If the person doesn't respond, let them go on their way. There is a difference between "outgoing" and "violent". You don't want to force an interaction on someone who isn't interested.

Keep in mind that this approach doesn't work well in situations where people don't expect to be approached, such as when taking public transportation. Part of social behavior is knowing when and where to approach others and when to keep to yourself.

4. Introduce yourself.

You don't have to be polite How to be outgoing Some people are naturally outgoing, but others have to practice to become outgoing. If you want to become outgoing, there are several strategies you can use. Being "outgoing" means learning how to present yourself to others, strike up a conversation, and be more confident.

Know thyself. The more you understand about yourself, the more you will see and appreciate how unique you really are, and the more you will value yourself. Discover your principles, personality and talents. This exciting process of self-discovery may take some time to complete, but you will quickly see that it was worth it.

Make a list of things, people, feelings and activities that are important to you. This will help you determine what you really like and need in life.

Try different activities. This will give you a chance to see what you like and what you don't.

Try writing in a journal. Pretend you're talking to your 99-year-old self and asking for advice on what to focus on in your life. You can also start with a writing prompt: “What do I want to avoid writing about?” This will start an honest conversation with yourself.

Spending time with yourself pretending to date. Try a new restaurant that is exactly what you would like to do. This will give you a chance to connect with your own feelings and opinions.

 

Forgive yourself. If you want to respect yourself, you have to be able to forgive yourself for the things you have done in the past that you are not proud of. Admit that what you did was wrong, apologize to others if necessary, and work to move forward. If you are too hard on yourself for making a bad decision or saying something hurtful, then you will never be able to move on. Know that you are human. People make mistakes. We learn by making mistakes, so accept them and forgive yourself.

 

Accept yourself. Be yourself, learn to love and accept who you are. That doesn't mean you have to think you're perfect, but you have to learn to embrace yourself. Be happy with all the things you love about yourself and be okay with the parts of yourself that aren't perfect, especially the ones you can't change.

Stop saying you'll love yourself even if you lose twenty pounds and start loving the person you are right now.

 

Work on building your confidence. Achieving self-esteem is difficult if you are not happy with who you are, how you look, or what you do. Building real confidence takes a lot of work, but doing a few simple things every day can start you on your way.

Start by maintaining positive body language and posture, smiling more, and thinking at least three good thoughts about yourself every hour.

If someone compliments you, accept their statement by saying, "Thank you."

 

Keep a positive attitude. A positive attitude can make or break your success in life, as can your thoughts on who you are. Even if things don't go your way, rest assured that something good will definitely happen in the end. Be content with your everyday life and all it has to offer. If you feel overly negative about everything and only imagine the worst in every situation, then you will never feel good about who you are or give yourself the respect you deserve.

For example, if you've applied for a job you really want, don't say, “There's no way I'm going to get it. There are many more qualified applicants.” Instead, say, “It would be so exciting to get the job. Even if they don't ask me for an interview, I'm proud of myself for applying."